Veteran Nollywood actress, Ayo Mogaji, recently opened up about becoming a mother at 40 with just one fallopian tube.
She shared her experiences on a podcast hosted by Nollywood actress, Abiola Adebayo.
Mogaji recounted that she had her baby six weeks after turning 40, despite having one fallopian tube.
The fallopian tubes are narrow structures on either side of the uterus, allowing eggs to travel from the ovaries to the uterus.
Mogaji revealed that her fallopian tube ruptured during her first ectopic pregnancy, which had to be evacuated to save her life.
An ectopic pregnancy occurs when a fertilized egg implants outside the uterus, typically in a fallopian tube, leading to a tubal pregnancy.
Mogaji shared that some colleagues at the hospital cried bitterly as doctors feared she might not survive the operation, which lasted seven to nine hours.
Mogaji explained, “There was this lawyer who wanted to marry me because he had been in a marriage for 14 years without a child. He introduced me to his mother, and I was seeking a child at that time. Our mothers met, and I became pregnant. Unfortunately, the pregnancy was ectopic. It stayed right inside the fallopian tube and LUTH was on strike. By the time we realized what was happening, I was taken to seven hospitals. The late Uncle Ede Aderinokun gave me a note to the hospital where I was eventually admitted. The doctor said he wasn’t sure if I could survive till tomorrow, and I said, ‘Do you believe in God? Even if you do not believe in God, believe in me because I believe in God. We did not have an agreement that I was going to die like this.’ They operated, and it took seven to nine hours. The ectopic pregnancy ruptured before they could act, also rupturing my appendix, so they had to remove one fallopian tube. I live with one and had my child naturally with the remaining one.”
Discussing her love life, Mogaji recalled falling in love and marrying, but her partner was abusive for the 13 years they were together. She revealed that her ex-husband’s physical abuse prevented her from staying at home without a third party present.
Mogaji advised, “When matrimony leads you to a place where you can’t have your own friends, and the family cannot come, you start looking at them differently. Considering the job you were in before marriage, the reactions at home, the abusive language, the physical abuse, and the mental torture—when it gets too much, I advise anyone to leave such a marriage because otherwise, they may come and meet your candle.”
On reconciliation with her ex-husband, she stated, “There can’t be room. If I could tolerate that for 13 years, hoping for a change, then there can never be a change. He is not a bad person, but extreme jealousy and a complex make it very hard. It can’t work. You can try to make your marriage work, yes you can try.”
